Come,save relationships

http://www.thehindu.com/opinion/open-page/come-save-relationships/article18191617.ece
Come, save relationships*
Swati Sharma

 Excerpts:
"When you think everything is someone else’s fault or doing, you will suffer a lot. It’s when you realise that everything springs from only yourself, you learn both peace and joy
- The Dalai Lama
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 The girl that just updated a status about being cheerful, was crying two days back and is seriously messed up in her career right now. But she is not going to update that. The couple that updated their trip selfies actually had a fight right before them. The “food porn” photos don’t necessarily mean it was a lovely dinner. Nor do foreign trips symbolise an enriched life.
But a generation living with ideologies of FOMO*, YOLO* and Never Settle will not get it. We want it all and we want it now. And we don’t have the time, patience or energy to build a meaningful relationship. A longstanding relationship is a sapling that was nurtured well to become a tree. If your solution to things involve getting under or over someone or just escape the reality, it will never work.
To build that relationship you need to work on yourself. You need to be the best version of you. You need to give love before receiving it, and not your idea of love, the love that your partner needs, the love that your relationship requires; time, patience and understanding and a life to be lived, not displayed and followed. So make time, give love, be patient and work on yourself.

 *Open Page, The Hindu, April 23, 2017
FOMO: Fear Of Missing Out; YOLO: You Only Live Once

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