Learning to cope with intrusive questions
http://www.thehindu.com/opinion/open-page/learning-to-cope-with-intrusive-questions/article17759042.ece
Learning to cope with intrusive questions
Learning to cope with intrusive questions
Excerpts:
"The way to answer
While in many instances I have seen people
reply to questions in an offensive manner without even thinking how much it can
hurt the other person, it has always been hard for me to utter anything that
might otherwise stress the one who is posing the question. I often tend to
reply politely with half-hearted answers.
Sometimes I feel like avoiding them entirely,
but then get reminded of the fact that it calls for a massive grudge and
another frustrating round of questioning by them for not caring to talk properly.
Most of the times, my inner voice asks me to blurt everything out, about my
personal life, about my choices, and just say, “I want you to not intrude into
my life anymore. I’m happy that I’m taking time to dig my potentials out,
rather than getting into small talks, which is absolutely a waste of time.”
But when I foresee the consequences of giving
such a rude reply, I roll back and try to be poised and respond in a humble
manner. Although it may sound cowardly, it can avoid creating negative vibes in
a relationship. In such situations, one should remember that time can prove
everything and answering someone’s questions isn’t compulsory.
Actions speak louder and confession is not the
only option. If you think participating in a conversation makes you jittery,
you have the right to change the subject. But that comes only with mastery in
the art of deflection.
So the next time someone puts a prying nose,
we no more have to feel wedged. What we choose to share is certainly different
from what we want to be asked to share."
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